If you think you are the top of the food chain, the only way left is down. Belief in something greater than ourselves pulls us in a positive direction and reminds us that we don’t have it all figured out. Miracles surround us. We just have to notice them more. This video is the last […]
We are creatures of habit. This makes us efficient, but can also get us stuck in maladaptive patterns. It’s important to be able to change things up, and good for the brain as well. This video is part twenty-five of twenty-six excerpts from a presentation hosted by SOUL Food Salon in March 2019.
Society rewards our thoughts more than our feelings. The answer is not to avoid feelings, but to learn how to reconnect with them again, for true balance. This can be foreign, and scary at first. This video is part twenty-four of twenty-six excerpts from a presentation hosted by SOUL Food Salon in March 2019.
It’s hard to confront scary or shameful parts of ourselves. The alternative to work and confrontation is avoidance. Then the problems continue. Good therapy is like a personal trainer who pushes you through these hard spots. The outcome is good, and often a cure. This video is part twenty-three of twenty-six excerpts from a presentation […]
Human suffering is the result of resisting reality. Yes, we must fight, but at some point, there is nothing more that can be done. Ongoing dissatisfaction, resistance, then serves no purpose other than to make us suffer. This video is part twenty-two of twenty-six excerpts from a presentation hosted by SOUL Food Salon in March […]
Your best chance to practice is when it’s easy, and this prepares you for times when it’s hard. See everyday situations where you can easily exert change, and bigger changes will follow. This video is part twenty-one of twenty-six excerpts from a presentation hosted by SOUL Food Salon in March 2019.
Small changes can lead to big changes. Snowflakes can become avalanches. You have to start somewhere small, to make something big happen. This video is part twenty of twenty-six excerpts from a presentation hosted by SOUL Food Salon in March 2019.
Everything in nature is fractal, where the same pattern repeats on different scales, from micro to macro. The same patterns present in nature – trees, ferns, are certainly also present in us, and our psychology. This video is part nineteen of twenty-six excerpts from a presentation hosted by SOUL Food Salon in March 2019.
Many people tend to think of things as black and white. Slowing down does not mean stopping. Most of us drive through life too fast and slowing down a little, can help a lot. This video is part eighteen of twenty-six excerpts from a presentation hosted by SOUL Food Salon in March 2019.
Our Darwinian drive helps us survive and succeed and our Buddhist drive lets us enjoy. Like the fable of the ant and the grasshopper, there is always a balance between getting things done and enjoying the fruits of our labor. This video is part seventeen of twenty-six excerpts from a presentation hosted by SOUL Food […]
A major goal of therapy is to develop an external observing ego – or more simply, the awareness that things are happening, not happening to you. This video is part sixteen of twenty-six excerpts from a presentation hosted by SOUL Food Salon in March 2019.
Change is hard. Most people don’t even understand there may be something wrong. For those that do, they still have to acknowledge the problem, make a decision to address it, and do the work of making the change. This is where guidance and coaching pay off. This video is part fifteen of twenty-six excerpts from […]
It’s hard to figure out what worked and what didn’t if you didn’t give it your best. Whether it’s a relationship, a career, or any therapeutic intervention – give it your best. So you know what worked, and what didn’t. Otherwise, there will always be doubt. This video is part fourteen of twenty-six excerpts from […]
It’s easy to find scary stuff on the internet. Most people having a “normal” experience say nothing, and the outliers will go on to write the best and worst outcomes. Stay rooted in science rather than anecdotes. Having negative expectations can hurt. This video is part thirteen of twenty-six excerpts from a presentation hosted by […]
We are terrible historians, and even worse with remembering how we’ve felt more than a week ago. Part of good science is keeping good records, journaling is an essential part of this work. This video is part twelve of twenty-six excerpts from a presentation hosted by SOUL Food Salon in March 2019.
